The Remarkable Power of Silence

Today 4.2.2012, Sunday… I met my childhood friends today during my fren’s wedding. They are nora, lina n hidayah.

Im just gonna talk abt hidayah. Or yayang. She is awesome!!! Befo that i wana describe a lil bit abt her. Hidayah’s appearance bukan mcm org biasa yg lain. She is istimewa. Msa dlu d skolah rendah ia belum pandai control tgnnya. Ia slalu bertuala tuk lap saliva nya mungkin msatu otot mulut n rahangnya msih belum develop fully. Nowadays! When i met her! She is awesome! Awesome is the best word describe for her! She changed a lot! She is beautiful despite the fact ia memiliki kekurangan scra lahiriah. Im very proud to know her! What s amazing lg abt her is she can remember my FULL NAME! Kalah org yg baru kenal me! Ya Allah sesungguhnya stiap kejadian yg Kau ciptakan pasti ada kelebihannya masing2. He knows to recognize numbers as well. Im pretty sure environmentnya positive at home! Alhamdulillah. Her dress Pun nda ketinggalan zaman nya org which helps me to describe tht her family is very supportive n treat her very well. May Allah bless the family n i hve no more words to say accept AWESOME!!!

Untuk isteri tersayang …………
1) “Sekali suami minum air yang disediakan oleh isterinya adalah lebih baik dari berpuasa setahun”.
2) “Makanan yang disediakan oleh isteri kepada suaminya lebih baik dari isteri itu mengerjakan haji dan umrah”
3) “Mandi junub si isteri disebabkan jimak oleh suaminya lebih baik baginya daripada mengorbankan 1,000 ekor kambing sebagai sedekah kepada fakir miskin”.
4) “Apabila isteri hamil ia dicatitkan sebagai seorang syahid dan khidmat kepada suaminya sebagai jihad”.
5) “Pemeliharaan yang baik terhadap anak-anak adalah menjadi benteng neraka, pandangan yang baik dan harmonis terhadap suami adalah menjadi tasbih (zikir)”.
6) “Tidak akan putus ganjaran dari Allah kepada seorang isteri yang siang dan malamnya menggembirakan suaminya”.
7) “Apabila meninggal dunia seorang dan suaminya redha, nescaya ia dimasukkan ke dalam syurga”. (Hadis Riwayat Tarmizi)
8) “Seseorang wanita apabila ia mengerjakan sembahyang yng difardhukan ke atasnya, berpuasa pada bulan Ramadhan, menjaga kehormatan dirinya dan taat kepada suaminya maka berhaklah ia masuk syurga dari mana-mana pintu yang ia suka”.
Dan ingatlah wahai wanita, semua itu terangkum di dalam suatu perkataan iaitu “TAAT”…

Why I Want To Get Married?

Because I want my eyes to see someone special, someone halal, knowing that he/she
is my gift from Allah.

Because I want someone who loves Allah and loves me because he loves Allah. 

Because I want somebody to share my happiness and praise Allah with me, someone to cry my tears with me and make du’a with me and someone to love
and love Allah with me.

Because I want to have children of my own to love and care and share with a gift from Allah.

Because I want to share Allah’s beautiful creations and praise His name with
someone who Allah has fated to be with me since I was born. 

Because verily, with a halal partner, my life and everything I do with my husband will be halal in the eyes of Allah. 

Because I am a gift from Allah to someone, and I want to let him feel Allah’s love through me

BROTHER’S SISTER’S PLEASE PLEASE READ AND SHARE PLEASE You’re just like a brother to me!” she’d often tell her Muslim college friend whom she’s grown close to over the years. She feels comfortable with confiding in him, trusting him, opening up to him – but she’s never thought of him as a husband. They hang out together during their breaks, she calls him whenever she needs to vent, and she loves how he’s never judgmental towards her. To him, she was a friend at first — but he soon discovered that he’d often feel a tinge of jealousy whenever she spoke nonchalantly and joked with other male classmates. It burned him inside, and he’d always try to pull her away casually without making his irritation apparent. Many times, he’d look at her with admiration, smiling and melting away with his dreams of what could be for them. He would never dare bring up marriage to her, though. How could he when she only viewed him as her brother? So, would you call these two good friends? Brother and sister maybe? Boyfriend and girlfriend? As with many cases in the Muslim community, this is a confused pseudo-marriage framed under the guise of friendship or an innocent brotherly bond. As the two become lax in their interaction, their hearts naturally – albeit unintentionally – gravitate towards each other, their minds become occupied with each other, and one or both parties eventually develop feelings that either remain trapped or expressed and acted upon unlawfully. With their increasing closeness and intimacy, the special reserves of loyalty, emotional sentiments and halaal physical attraction may be exhausted before their rightful outlet in marriage. If they end up not getting married and search elsewhere for a partner, they may never be content because they can’t resist comparing potential spouses with their former “friend”. Even if they eventually marry someone else, they will always have a history, and sometimes Shaytan can push them to reconnect and rekindle that past relationship during marriage. It is no wonder why our wise Creator `azza wa jall, who is well aware of our natures and inclinations, says in the Qur’an “…Nor of those who take (boy)friends…(4:25). With many commands and prohibitions in Islam, Allah has mercifully forbade the prerequisite acts that would lead to major sins. He is protecting us from Shaytan and from falling prey to our desires, which saves us the emotional distress and painful regret that often come as a consequence to disobedience. It’s also no wonder why it is purer and more chaste for both men and women to lower their gaze when speaking to those of the opposite gender (24:30-31), and to focus only on the tasks necessitating their communication. Remember Musa (`alayhissalam ) with the two daughters of Shu`ayb? Their interaction and communicating was exuding hayaa’ and self-respect; Musa (as) never struck personal, unwarranted conversation with them and when one of the daughters informed Musa (as) that her father is inviting him to reward him for his assistance, she walked (and spoke) with utmost modesty and dignity. One of the greatest manifestations of modesty and also a safeguard to indecent conduct is the Muslimah’s Islamic dress. Besides obeying Allah and the Messenger’s commands in wearing loose, non-transparent, non-perfumed clothing, the attire brings with it an entire set of behavioral traits that the Muslim woman finds befitting to uphold. She is no longer comfortable mingling with men, joking and laughing loudly with them – or behaving in any way that may ignite their desires. Her taqwa (God-consciousness) and hayaa’ with Allah become embodied in all her mannerisms – her body language, how she speaks and carries herself – and reminds her of amicably maintaining the boundaries that Allah and the Messenger (peace be upon him) would be pleased with. There is a profound hadith of the Prophet (peace be upon him), which if practiced and truly believed in, can adorn our lives with blessings and many successes. It states: “There is nothing that you leave out of God-consciousness except that Allah will compensate you with something better” (Ahmad). We all long for acceptance and relationships that quell our loneliness and make us feel needed and loved. Perhaps if we devote our lives to increasing our love for Allah and gaining His love in return, He will bless us with halaal relationships that will be the greatest source of happiness, love, loyalty and compassion in this life and the better one to come.

Choose a righteous spouse because he/she will lead you to Jannah. A husband’s love is not shown through expensive bags nor diamond rings, but it is shown by his attentiveness towards ur deeds for akhirah.

The Prophet (peace_be_upon_him) said: May Allah have mercy on a man who gets up at night and prays, and awakens his wife; if she refuses, he should sprinkle water on her face. May Allah have mercy on a woman who gets up at night and prays, and awakens her husband; if he refuses, she would sprinkle water on his face.

(Sunan abu Daud) Book 2, Number 1303

MashaAllah :)

It’s great to love and be loved in Halal! But the greater is to find the righteous husband who:

♥ love to read Quran with you,
♥ perform quyam layla (night prayer) with you 
♥ draw closer to Allah with you,

It’s great that you and your spouse grow old together but the greater is that you both grow old in obedience of Allah together ♥

May Allah grant the wishes, Aameeen :)

Assalamualaikum,

Hari ni im in dilemma. As usual it’s related to love/Relationship. I know this guy name A… I m not sure with my feeling towards him but i know there exist something in my heart towards him. Tp aku punya dilemma… Dilemma ani mengenai relationship yg berleluasa zaman ani. Tidak terkecuali aku sndiri pun pernah mngalaminya. Aku tlah mmbuat beberapa bacaan mengenai relationship couple ani jua aku betanya kpd ssorg yg berpngetahuan ddlm agama Islam yg ku dpt harapkan tuk mmbntu aku mmberi penjelasan.
Menurut bacaan yg ah ku baca, relationship ani haram hukumnya krana ia boleh mendatangkan zina mata, zina tangan, zina kaki, zina lidah dan zina hati. SubhanaAllah ya Allah. Begitu sja aku membacanya aku terkenang balik relationship lama ku dlu dgn bekas tunangku. Benar rltnshp mmbwa kburukan dan sia2 kerana kitani terlalai dan leka menyelami perasaan masing2. Sbg manusia yg mudah d hasut iblis kekdg aku cuba menafikan yg rltnshp ani mendtgkankan kburukan. Tp i strongly believe manusia dgn mudah akan lalai dan leka jika sudah melampaui batasan mengingati atau memikirkan seseorang. Inda salah saling mengenali tp biarlah mengikut cara Islam. Kekdg aku sndiri mcm inda layak membicarakan cemani psl aku bukan lah sebaik mana, aku nda lah searif mana dlm pngetahuan agama ani. Tp kekdg hatiku meronta tuk buat ssuatu yg baik dan jgn ulangi apa yg ku buat dlu.

My ex fiance adalah dr kalangan manusia yg jauh tersimpang dr landasan benar. Aku mulai mencintai ia dan merasa bertanggungjwb tuk mendidik ia. Dan aku harap dgn rltnshp yg kmi bina aku dpt mmbntu mendidik ia lagi. Tp nyata salah. Malah aku telah jauh dari Mu ya Allah. Aku mendahulukan perasaan my ex berbanding aku memikirkan tntangMu ya Allah. Jauh sekali terpesongnya aku. Malah aku lihat masjid cematu sja tnpa singgah sebentar tuk mengingatiMu ya Allah. Benar belaka bila seseorang hadir dlm jiwa dan perasaan kitani yg bukan halal bukan muhrim nyata ia akan menggoncang hati kitani. Wlau sealim mana pun kitani jika iman tidak teguh ia akan memusnahkan segala2nya.

Dan kini aku dlm dilemma… Bukan mksudku nda mau berkenalan dgn A. Aku mau tp aku nda mau smpai tahap ‘rltnshp’… Bolehkah begitu dri pihak lelaki tuk menerimanya? Mungkin jikalau dia ingin meminangku akan ku terima sepenuhnya walaupun aku belum kenal budi pekertinya. Aku percaya lelaki baik diciptakan tuk perempuan yg baik dan begitu jua sebaliknya. Kalau benar dia diciptakan tuk aku, aku percaya 1 hari nnt kami akan disatukan dgn cara yg dtentukan oleh Allah.

Aku berharap dpt mencintai dia selepas kmi diijabkabulkan dlm ikatan pernikahan yg suci. Seboleh2nya aku mau mengelakkan diriku dr terjerumus dlm bahana ‘rltnshp’. Ia mungkin mmbwa kebaikan dmna tni bleh berkenalan tp dlm masa yg sama jikalau tidak dpt dikawal kita jua yg berdosa. Aku telah mmbuatkan my dad hampir dgn neraka kerana aku dgn tidak segan silunya mengikuti ex ku dlu ksna kemari berpegangan tgn. Astaghfirullahalazimmm. Ya Allah ampunilah dosa bapaku kerana beliau lah yg bertanggungjwb ke atas ku. Kali ni aku mau mencuba sedaya upaya ku utk tidak menghampirkan mereka dgn azab itu. Kerana aku seorang perempuan yg bisa bila2 masa sahaja menarik bapaku, abg2ku ke dlm azab neraka. Nauzubillahiminzalik. Kini baru aku faham kenapa ‘isteri dan anak2’ akan menjadi sbg dugaan kpd seorang suami/lelaki.

Ya Allah lindungilah mereka yg aku sayangi drpda azab neraka mu. Mmg benar bukan aku yg menentukan jauh dekatnya azab neraka kpd mereka akan tetapi aku boleh jd sbg 1 PUNCA knpa mereka dekat kpd azab Allah yg maha dahsyat.

Ya Allah aku mohon tetapkan lah hatiku d jln Mu yg lurus. Tetapkan lah imanku ya Allah. Peliharalah diriku dan kluarga ku drpda perbuatan yg tidak sepatutnya dilakukan…

Aku cuma insan biasa yg byk sngat kekurangan ku… Apa yg ku tahu akan sedaya upaya ku praktikkan.

Kpd lelaki yg ku sukai kini… Aku mmg punya niat yg suci utk mngenali dan memilikimu 1 hari nnt tp biarlah dgn cara yg telah dtetpkan dlm Islam. Kita berusaha dlu dan selebihnya aku berserah diri pada Allah. Jikalau kita ada jodoh indakan ke mana jua. I know u re a good man… Sekiranya pun u re not a good man pasti satu hri nnt hatimu terbuka utk kembali ke jln yg benar dan semoga engkau tidak lari drpda mendptkan hidayah Allah jua. Aaamiiinnn.

Sekian.

Some authors such as Goswami and Bryant (1990) reserve the term phonemic awareness to imply awareness of individual phonemes; whereas, phonological awareness is a more global term that includes the earlier stages, such as rhyme and syllable awareness. 

http://www.educationoasis.com/resources/Articles/phonemic_awareness.htm 

Developmental dyslexia is diagnosed in children who fail to acquire age-appropriate read- ing skills in the absence of other cognitive dysfunctions, such as poor vision, or frank neurological deficit (Stanovich, 1988b; Vellutino, 1979). Dyslexic children typically exhibit difficulties in rec- ognizing printed words, and perform poorly on such tasks as nonsense word reading, spelling, and reading comprehension (Lyon, 1995; Rack, Snowling, & Olson, 1992). Dyslexia is sometimes thought to be an impairment that is specific to reading; however, there is now a considerable body of evidence linking dyslexia to impairments in other aspects of language, memory, and perception (Adams, 1990; Snowling, 1987; Stanovich, 1988a; Vellutino, 1979; Wagner & Torgesen, 1987).

Feel breathless i dnt kno wht happen. Stomach too full?

Anyway i jz wna talk abt love. Love is really hard to find. Eventho we b frens wid so many ppl yet it’s seem hard to find d one who suit us best. Who cn b a good listener to us. I dnt know… I wish i cn fall in luf wif sum1 like bfo… Whre i cn feel it. I do find dis one guy but i dnt think he’s into me so i forget things abt him erase the memories. But last tym he txted me dat he saw me in gdg area n dat s d last txt i v ever read frm him. Bfo i had this strong feeling on him but not anymore. Right now i feel like dat i dnt haf dis feeling to b in luf wif sum1. I dbt know. Somebody cn u pls knock on my heart’s door. It seems way toooo hard to b opened for sum1 unless dey r really showing it to me n make great efforts tackling my ‘hardened’ heart. But none re brave enuf to make a try…

20.1.12 - i woke up just now in d morning n i dreamt my ex meninggal. Balik2 dlm mmpiku atu mngatakan ja meninngal. Kawannya bernama Ali Syukur mnulis ddlm dis kind of book or magazine x yg mngatakan my ex atu meninggal. Mcm repeated bah mmpi ku atu. N dat explains y my ex nda balas my emel rupanya ia meninggal sudah. Weird… Dlm mmpiku ia meninggal pal accident. N dlm mmpiku atu mcm sedih jua ku n mcm inda jua. Ya Allah apa mksud mmpi ku ani? Bnr kh ia mninggal? Mun bnr akan ku doakan ia di tempatkan dgn org2 yg soleh mukmin muslimin. Smoga rohnya dcucuri rahmat.